The following article by Helen Rose was published in the Sunday Mirror – Sunday 03 July 1927

 

The following excerpt from The Family, Sex and Marriage in England, 1500-1800  by  Lawrence Stone describes the timeline during which English marriages switched from traditional modes of arrangement and exchange of dowry, to romantic love as primary influence on relationship formation. This change, finds Stone, was stimulated by the rise of female-authored romance novels in the 1700s and their wide dissemination.

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Note: A central link between these female romance writers and thier medieval forebears can be found in the English work Le Morte d’Arthur (1470) which was a retelling of medieval romantic tales by the English knight Sir Thomas Malory. Its influence on women’s novel writing in the 1700s, its broader impact on the romance genre, and the 19th-century Arthurian revival, helped to shape the literary landscape for women writers.

GROK gives the etymological root meaning of storge (family love):

 

Fulltext version:

The Greek word storge refers to familial love, particularly the natural affection between parents and children or within a family. Its etymological root lies in the Proto-Indo-European (PIE) root ster- or stor-, which conveys the sense of “care,” “affection,” or “nurturing.” This root is associated with instinctive, protective, and enduring bonds, often tied to familial or communal care.

In Greek, storge derives from a verbal root related to stérgein, meaning “to love” or “to feel affection,” especially in a familial context. The term emphasizes a deep, instinctual, and often unconditional love, distinct from other Greek words for love like agape (selfless love), philia (friendship), or eros (sexual desire). The etymology reflects a foundational concept of natural attachment and care inherent in extended family relationships.

To those wondering why we created the gold pill, we did so to offer something beyond the typical Manosphere talking points which in recent times have become tired and stale.

As the voice behind the This Is Shah YouTube channel, I have spent my efforts excavating the lost knowledge of marriage transactions in human history. This field has been well documented by anthropologists, especially from the 60’s and 70’s onward. and includes information about marriage transactions such as the Dowry and Bridewealth (formerly Brideprice). Take this quote from The Economics of Dowry and Brideprice by Siwan Anderson:

Most societies, at some point in their history, have been characterized by payments at the time of marriage. Such payments typically go hand-in-hand with marriages arranged by the parents of the respective spouses. These marriage payments come in various forms and sizes but can be classified into two broad categories: transfers from the family of the bride to that of the groom, broadly termed as “dowry,” or from the groom’s side to the bride’s, broadly termed as “brideprice.” Brideprice occurs in two-thirds of societies recorded in Murdock’s (1967) World Ethnographic Atlas of 1167 preindustrial societies. Conversely, dowry occurs in less than 4 percent of this sample. However, in terms of population numbers, dowry has played a more significant role, because the convention of dowry has occurred mainly in Europe and Asia, where more than 70 percent of the world’s population resides.

However, somehow the manosphere has managed to completely miss this information and what it means for relationships in the modern world. I, and the others here who have taken the Gold Pill, aim to correct this.

We have a trove (or rather a dowry chest) full of information which include academic/scholarly papers, newspaper articles, and media from different time periods that more than demonstrate, decisively and precisely, how the marriage market operated with regard to economics and the material concerns of both parties involved.

As the r/goldpill_ subreddit develops, I plan to share what I have and it is my desire to see this forum become a place of honest discussion between participants who wish to understand and absorb the gold pill better. Ultimately, I would like to see people, especially men, process this information in a way that will help us to collectively bargain and negotiate better for marriage and within relationships, in a way that is fair and just. The memory of this information I believe will be necessary to help men navigate the uncertain future we have ahead of us.

Are we going back to the way things were? No, we are not, not in my belief, the world has experienced too many changes, and nothing short of a collapse and total reset will take us back to how things used to be. However, with this knowledge, we will craft a new way forward that gives to each what is owed.

-Shah

A Chinese writer addresses English readers, published in the newspaper  “The Graphic” (Saturday 27 February 1932).  The article mentions rational practices of coupling in traditional societies like China, vs. romantic love of the English which is characterised as irrational.

The following article by Dorothy Dix was published in the Adelaide News, 7 Jul 1932

 

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Dowry System Makes for Wedded Bliss

Wife With Income Gets More Respect
BY DOROTHY DIX

A REVIVAL of the dowry system would not only encourage marriage but would promote wedded happiness, because a wife who has her own income, however small, is accorded greater respect by her husband.

The dowry system is a plan that I have advocated for years. It is the foundation stone of marriage in many countries. Personally I can think of nothing that would speed up the matrimonial market so much as giving girls dowries, because the reason why young people do not marry is not because they do not want to, but because they have not the price of a wedding ring.

THERE are mighty few young men in their 20’s, which is the age in which they are most inclined towards marriage, who make enough money alone and unaided to afford the luxury of a wife. So they have to put off marrying until they are well in their 30’s, and by that time they have more or less outgrown the romantic urge and marriage does not look so good to them as does bachelorhood and freedom.

AFFORD TO MARRY
But if a girl had a dowry it would be different. If a bride brought along her own bread and butter, so to speak, and was able to buy her own fluffy ruffles, then boys and girls could afford to marry while they were still young and ardent. A wife would then be an asset to a man instead of a liability, and marriage would be a grand sweet song instead of a perpetual fight over bills, as it generally is when people try something beyond their means. Love’s young dream has to be financed, or else it turns into a nightmare.

Fathers who bring their daughters up with pink crepe-de-chine habits and tastes should in common honesty and justice continue to suppy the silk lingerie. Otherwise you place a great hardship on both the girl and her husband, and jeopardise their marriage, for many a marriage goes on the rocks because the young husband cannot supply the finery to which the girl has been accustomed, and she cannot adjust herself to a lower standard of living.

For a girl to be given a dowry when she marries would do much to promote her happiness. It would give her the self-respect that even partial financial independence gives, and it would make her husband respect her more. Few men ever treat a wife who has her own pocket book in the same way that they treat one who hasn’t a penny of her own. A rich man once said to me, “I have settled enough money on my daughters in a trust fund to ensure that their husbands will always treat them with politeness and consideration.”

Even when husbands are generous it is wormwood and gall in a woman’s mouth for her to have to ask him for every cent. Every time she has to do it she is humiliated and she feels that she would almost sell her soul for even the smallest income that was her own.

BETTER INVESTMENT
It is because this financial independence is so craved by women that business girls are so loath to give up their jobs after marriage.

Of course, parents will say they cannot afford to give their daughters dowries, and that after you have dressed a girl and sent her to college and given her a trip to Europe and a sports car, there is nothing left to give her when she marries.

True enough, but I believe that if fathers and mothers spent less on their daughters’ backs while they were growing up, and put more in their hope chests, it would be a far better investment in the long run and bring in a higher percentage in happiness and wellbeing to the girls.

In some countries when a baby girl is born her parents begin laying up her dowry so that she may not only be able to marry when she is grown, but have her safety assured after marriage.

Most parents spend all they can rake and scrape together in dolling up a girl, on the gamble that she will be good looking enough to catch a husband who will provide for her. But they never think unless they are rich, of safeguarding her future themselves.