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Dorothy Dix Letterbox: Father Takes Exception To Dowry System of Paying For Daughters!
Article published in The Tribune – Fri 30 Sep 1932: Father takes exception to dowry system of paying for daughters – suggests they should instead marry for mutual “pleasures.”
Dorothy Dix asks: “Is Your Wife Worth 10%?” (1932)
Dorothy Dix asks:
“Is Your Wife Worth 10%?”
It is a lamentable fact that, under the existing laws, many women are better off financially when they are divorced or when their husbands are dead than at any other period of their married life. There is something drastically wrong with the social system when such a state of affairs is allowed to exist.
Facial traits in certain male populations are more neotenous than in women
Below are specific studies and findings that indicate facial traits in certain male populations that are more neotenous than in women, focusing on traits like high foreheads, larger eyes, and any other relevant features. Each source is accompanied by a one-sentence description summarizing the male trait identified as more neotenous than in women.
- Study: Cunningham, M. R. (1986). “Measuring the physical in physical attractiveness: Quasi-experiments on the sociobiology of female facial beauty.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 50(5), 925–935.
- Finding: In certain East Asian male populations, relative eye size (larger eyes compared to facial width) is greater than in women, contributing to a more neotenous appearance.
- Description: East Asian men’s larger eye-to-face ratio is more neotenous than in women due to proportionally bigger eyes resembling juvenile features.
- Study: Enlow, D. H. (1990). Facial Growth (3rd ed.). Philadelphia: Saunders.
- Finding: Men across various populations tend to have taller foreheads relative to their facial structure compared to women, a trait associated with juvenile proportions.
- Description: Men’s higher foreheads are more neotenous than women’s, as they reflect the larger forehead-to-face ratio seen in infants.
- Study: Rhodes, G. (2006). “The evolutionary psychology of facial beauty.” Annual Review of Psychology, 57, 199–226.
- Finding: In men with minimal facial hair (e.g., in some Asian or Native American populations), the smoother, less angular jawline appears more neotenous than in women with more defined mandibular structures.
- Description: Lower facial-hair male populations with softer jawlines are more neotenous than women’s more defined jaws, resembling youthful, less dimorphic features.
- Study: Perrett, D. I., Lee, K. J., Penton-Voak, I., et al. (1998). “Effects of sexual dimorphism on facial attractiveness.” Nature, 394(6696), 884–887.
- Finding: In populations with low sexual dimorphism (e.g., some East Asian or Scandinavian groups), men’s softer facial tissue and less pronounced brow ridges appear more neotenous than women’s more structured features.
- Description: Men’s softer facial tissue and reduced brow ridge prominence in low-dimorphism populations are more neotenous than women’s sharper features, mimicking juvenile softness.
- Study: Farkas, L. G. (1994). Anthropometry of the Head and Face. New York: Raven Press.
- Finding: In some male populations (e.g., certain European groups), a narrower nasal bridge relative to facial width is observed, which is more neotenous than the broader nasal structure often seen in women.
- Description: Men’s narrower nasal bridges in certain populations are more neotenous than women’s broader nasal structures, resembling the delicate noses of juveniles.
A History Of Gynocentrism’s Journey Into China
The following is a history of gynocentrism’s journey into China during the early 20th Century – based upon the Chinese language. English (pdf.) translation by SpiritHart.
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A Chaotic Scene: The Translation and Reception of the Gynaecocentric Theory in China ~ By Tang Xinyu
Abstract: The gynaecocentric theory, put forward by Lester F. Ward (1841–1913) in 1888, was introduced to China via Japan by Li Da (1890–1966) and Xia Mianzun (1886–1946) between 1921 and 1922. In contrast to its being seldom mentioned in the United States during the same period, the theory aroused a heated and prolonged discussion among the Chinese intellectuals. The translators Li Da and Xia Mianzun did not actually agree with Ward’s analysis of the causes of inequalities between men and women, although they faithfully translated his theory. Similarly, the readers, including socialists, feminists and nationalists, criticised or approved the theory according to their own values and stances. Behind all the different opinions, there was something in common: the vast majority of readers adopted a pragmatic position, without paying much attention to the theoretical study of the theory, which not only inevitably caused misreading of Ward and his theory, but created difficulties in recognising the weakness of the theory.
Sinne en Minne-beelden (1627): A Moral Lesson About Romantic Love
The image below is from Jacob Cats’s emblem book Sinne- en Minne-beelden (1627), where the destructive aspect of Minne (romantic love) is explored through moralized allegories.
The crocodile embodies unbridled, consuming passion, a dangerous and insatiable force that, left unchecked, leads to ruin and death. The emblem “Nescit habere modum” (“It knows no moderation”) draws on the natural-history belief that the crocodile grows continually throughout its life, using it as a symbol for romantic love’s tendency to increase without restraint.
The author contrasts this destructive urge with the ideal of conjugal love, which, though also enduring, is tempered by virtue and fidelity. Thus, the emblem sets “Minne” before the reader as uncontrolled desire that consumes itself like the ever-growing crocodile, as contrasted with conjugal affection which alone can channel love’s power into lasting harmony.
Evosimp and Evosimping Defined
The following definitions explain the term ‘Evosimp’ and its related form ‘Evosimping,’ capturing the concept of men justifying self-sacrifice or deference to women through evolutionary reasoning – compliments of Chat GPT.
1. Long, Dictionary-Style Version
Evosimp (noun)
A person who justifies disproportionate male self-sacrifice or subservience to women by invoking evolutionary psychology or evolutionary arguments, claiming that women inherently hold greater reproductive or evolutionary value.
Evosimping (verb, intransitive)
The act of behaving as an evosimp; engaging in the rationalization or performance of excessive male deference to women on the basis of evolutionary reasoning.
2. Short, Punchy Version
Evosimp (n.) – A man who treats women as inherently more valuable and justifies self-sacrifice or subservience using evolutionary arguments.
Evosimping (v.) – Acting like an evosimp; putting women on a pedestal and excusing male self-denial as “evolutionary necessity.”
Tradition Was Family-Centric, Not Gynocentric
Throughout history, men certainly performed caring acts for the good of their families and communities—but these gestures were not one-sided. Women, elders, and other family members also contributed their own sacrifices, creating a balance of mutual care. What we see in the historical record is not gynocentrism, but cooperation: family as a team.
Traditionally, men and women lived within family and community networks where everyone’s life and labor mattered, and protections were extended according to circumstance and need. Yes, women were sometimes prioritized for assistance, but so too were children, the elderly, the injured, or the sick. This was not evidence of a female-centered order—it was simply an expression of storge, the Greek word for familial love. Acts of care flowed in many directions, depending on who was most vulnerable in the moment.
To explore this point further, I conducted a small poll (see below). The question was simple: In a traditional society, which family member would men have rescued first from a burning house? One of the answer choices was “pregnant woman,” since pregnancy is often cited as the reason women supposedly always received priority.
The results were telling. Out of 825 respondents, the overwhelming majority believed that young children would be assisted first (73.3%). Frail grandparents came next (13.3%), followed by pregnant women (10.5%), and lastly non-pregnant women (2.8%). These responses reflect a common-sense principle: protection was given first to those in greatest need, not automatically to women.
Traditional family life was guided by the ethic of “all for one, and one for all.” Men, women, children, and elders were all valued, and any of them might become the priority depending on the situation. If an uncle broke his leg, he would be helped. If a grandfather fell ill, he would be cared for. If a child was in danger, he or she came first. To call care for a woman “gynocentrism” makes no more sense than calling care for an injured uncle “uncle-centrism.”
The idea that every act of familial kindness toward women must be reframed as evidence of a gynocentric order is a modern distortion—a projection of ideology onto the past. It reduces the complexity of human family life into a one-dimensional myth of female-centeredness. In truth, traditional society was not gynocentric, but family-centric.
4 Relationship Models Offered By Women
The following represent four hypothetical models that women might propose for relationships with men. The designation wife is shorthand for any long-term relationship, whether legally married or not.
| Category | Essence | Dynamics in Marriage/Partnership | View on Roles | Cultural Echo |
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| Tradwife-1 (Non-gynocentric tradwife) | Pre-Victorian traditionalism | Reciprocal partnership; both husband and wife contribute meaningfully (work, domestic, emotional, social) | Roles may differ but without female privilege; husband not subordinated | Medieval / early-modern marriages of mutual duty |
| Tradwife-2 (Gynocentric, performative tradwife) | Post-Victorian / 1950s archetype | Husband provides/protects, wife’s comfort and feelings prioritized | Two-spheres doctrine; parasitic tendency, wife on pedestal | 1950s “perfect housewife” ideal, gynocentric home culture |
| Feminist wife (Gynocentric, pretense of equality) | Modern feminist model | Rhetoric of equality, but still gynocentric in practice; woman’s empowerment and comfort prioritized | “Equality” reframed as men doing more provision and domestic work while women retain privileges | “Strong independent woman” image with hidden male obligation |
| Modwife (Non-gynocentric libertarian) | Modern libertarian partnership | Independence for both partners; free cooperation without pedestalizing or scapegoating | Roles negotiated freely; neither ideology nor hierarchy dominates | Contemporary couples who split bills, share roles, and avoid both tradwife and feminist dogmas |
For more on these theoretical models, see the following:
“Performative femininity” of tradcon women may be a manifestation of narcissism
The following studies indicate that “performative femininity” displayed by tradcon women may be a manifestation of narcissism. Chat GPT:
1. Women higher in narcissism measures employ performative femininity — outwardly conforming to traditional, exaggerated gender roles (e.g., excessive makeup, provocative dress) to control social impressions. [Sources: “Narcissism and Self-Presentation: Sexualization as a Strategy” Authors: Grijalva et al. (2015), Jackson et al. (1997), and other studies].
2. Women more often display narcissism through appearance-based strategies. Female narcissists often align themselves with traditional gender norms, including submissiveness or flirtatiousness — not as actual traits, but as performances for social gain. [Source: “Gender Differences in Narcissism: A Meta-Analytic Review” Authors: Emily Grijalva et al. (2015)]
3. Narcissistic women are more likely to engage in highly curated and sexualized social media activity to seek validation and attention. This behavior aligns with the concept of performative femininity, where appearance and presentation are instrumentalized. [Source: “Narcissism and Social Media Use: A Meta-Analytic Review” (Casale et al., 2020)]
4. Cultural shifts have amplified narcissistic traits in both genders, but particularly women. Young women, in particular, are increasingly socialized to see hyper-feminine appearance and sexual appeal as tools for success, which overlaps with narcissistic performative strategies. [Source: “The Narcissism Epidemic” by Jean Twenge & W. Keith Campbell]
5. Traditional femininity can be a masquerade, and for some narcissistic women this mask is used manipulatively to preserve inflated self-image and elicit male attention. [Source: “Female Narcissism: Covert Aggrandizement and the Construction of Femininity” by Riviere (1939; reinterpreted in modern feminist psychoanalysis)]
6. Female narcissists may assert femininity and receive affirmation from society to attain their goals, and at the same time deflect accountability and externalise blame. [Source: “Perceptions of female narcissism in intimate partner violence: A thematic analysis.” Qualitative methods in psychology bulletin, (28), 13-27.) Green, A., Charles, K., & MacLean, R. (2019).]
SUMMARY: Female narcissists often use performative femininity (especially appearance, sexualization, and traditional gender performance) to attract attention and admiration. This is particularly evident in social media behavior, romantic dynamics, and self-presentation strategies.
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